How do you do it?
How do you manage to get up and speak like that in public?
Aren’t you terrified?
First of all, I am not going to say I never get nervous and I don’t have doubts and fears – I am not super human, a guru or insensitive to fear!
I do experience nerves and worries – but I have learnt how to handle them. I have acquired ways and means, tips and tricks to frighten off Fear!
And most important of all – I understand where most of them stem from – and this has taught me the essentials of Speaking Without Fear.
This is crucial and I am passionate about it – so much so that I write about it in my new book.
Women and men have created so many extraordinary obstacles that prevent them from performing to their best ability.
From fulfilling their potential and really Stepping Up & Standing Out.
-Do one thing every day that scares you – Eleanor Roosevelt
Well, I do like that advice from Eleanor R. and I would say that it is a great way to develop Confidence too.
Confidence comes from practise, rehearsal, repetition, making mistakes and learning from them and more practise.
Because practise leads to experience! And one of the excellent side effects is Speaking Without Fear!
-Don’t give in to your fears. if you do, you won’t be able to talk to your heart – Paulo Coehlo
In my new book, I make a study and exposure about the way we humans have made pillars of moral and religious codes about our behaviour that restrict and inhibit us from expressing ourselves. There are rules and laws about how we should, could and must act that really hamper our creative style and our beautiful imaginations.
This causes damage, and in turn stops us from being who we really want to be. We become fearful of all the repercussions and punishments that could be dished out. And this becomes more subversive and sneaky if you are female. Misogyny still rules OK.
Here are 3 Essential things to push Fear out the window.
1. Breathe, find a rhythm to slow you down, breathe and then pause (do the 5 in, hold for 2, and 5 out method.)
2. Shake your body. Yes…shake your body. Dance, shake and shimmer and watch the nerves Fall to the ground
3. Tell yourself a whole pile of F words, I am Fabulous. I am Fantastic. I am Fresh.
The breathing exercise is actually the hardest for many people because we are so used to shallow breathing and not being aware of our breath.
Shaking your body is easy…come on, we all do it, with or without music or alcohol.
Self-talk is key to self-belief so try practising in front of the mirror. Look at yourself, smile and tell yourself you are Fantastic!
It sounds ridiculous but you will get good at it very soon.
-Fear is only temporary. Regret lasts for ever – Anon
For me, the main ingredient, the icing on the cake, the most relevant element is – I love what I do! I find the enjoyment and the fun.
And when you do – I guarantee your audience will! Speaking Without Fear is something you can overcome – if you want to. Do you want to?
Receiving encouragement and feedback is invaluable, support is key – But in the end, only you can Step Up & Stand Out with your Unique story, message or invention. Reach out for guidance, we all need it – press that button below and connect to communicate!